– Being kicked, punched, pinched, slapped, dragged, scratched, choked, bitten or pushed 

– Use or threats of use of weapons  

– Objects being thrown 

– Constant yelling and shouting 

– Verbal humiliation 

– Constantly being laughed at and being made fun of 

– Insults and threats 

– Mocking someone about their disability, gender, sexual orientation, physical appearance 

– The threat of violence 

– The threat of use of weapons  

– The threat of use of violence against family members or pets 

– Destroying your personal and treasured items 

– Threatening to remove your children OR that you will never see them again

– Intimidation 

– Being stopped from seeing friends or relatives 

– Constantly being insulted/belittled 

– Manipulating your anxieties or beliefs 

– Gaslighting

– Not allowing you to spend any money unless permitted 

– Making you account for everything you spend 

– Running up bills such as credit/store cards in your name  

– Preventing you from claiming welfare benefits

– Sexual harassment/pressure/unwanted demands  

– Forcing sex after physical assault 

– Rape 

– Forcing you to have sex (or commit a sexual act) against your will 

– Forced/pressured into engaging in ChemSex 

– Forced involvement into making or watching pornography 

– Deliberately being hurt during sex 

– Being pressurised or being tricked into having unsafe sex

– Isolating you from your friends and family 

– Depriving you of your basic needs 

– Monitoring your time 

– Monitoring you VIA online communication tools or using spyware 

– Taking control over aspects of your everyday life, such as where you can go, who you can see, what to wear and when you can sleep 

– Depriving you access to support services, such as specialist support or medical services 

– Enforcing rules and activity which humiliate, degrade or dehumanise you  

– Controlling or monitoring your daily activities, including making you account for your time, dictating what you can wear, when you can eat 

– Using substances to control you through dependency 

– Threats to expose sensitive information 

– Following you to and from work 

– Checking your email and phone calls 

– Regularly sending unwanted gifts 

– Making unwanted or malicious communication 

– Damaging property  

– Physical or sexual assault 

– Use of spyware or GPS locators on items such as phones, computers, wearable technology and cars  

– Use of hidden cameras 

– Unwanted contact 

– Placing false and malicious information about you on your or others’ social media 

– Being trolled 

– Revenge porn/Image based abuse 

– Monitoring or controlling your email and phone calls 

– Hacking into, monitoring or controlling email accounts, social media profiles and phone calls 

Honour-based abuse against LGBTQ+ people happens when family/community members disapprove of a person’s sexual orientation or gender identity, feeling it brings ‘shame’ on their family or community. People who carry out honour-based abuse are often close family members but also extended family or community members. 

Honour-based abuse can take the form of a range of abusive behaviours and practices. This includes:

– Forced marriage 

– Female genital mutilation  

– Physical, Sexual, Emotional, Economic abuse and coercive control 

– Threats to kill 

– Being kept at home with no freedom 

– Virginity testing 

– Enforced abortion 

Although domestic abuse can fall into these categories, there are some forms of abuse that usually only affect LGBTQ+ people. This can include: 

– The threat of disclosure of sexual orientation and gender identity 

– Undermining someone’s sense of gender or sexual identity 

– An abusive partner may manipulate their partners into believing that abuse is a ‘normal’ part of same-sex relationships 

– Threatening to disclose HIV status 

– Withholding medication or preventing treatment needed to express the victim’s gender identity (e.g. hormones, surgery). 

– Refusing to use correct pronouns 

– Ridiculing a person’s body image related to gender identity (body shaming) 

– Threats of using corrective treatments or honour-based abuse due to your sexual orientation or gender identity